Episode #6 – Value of friend and family

This episode is about the value of friendship and family.  As I said in episode five I was off to Dallas for our yearly get together with my “BFF” college friends.  My suggestion on living well was to always stay close to your best friends so that your life will be enriched and filled with the love that only a best friend can give.

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We now feel eighty after taking this picture. We messed up the “order” of our yearly photograph. So now when we show all the years this one will  be in reverse.  Does it really matter, at eighty you can do whatever you want.  Can’t you?

This year our visit was particularly special as we excitedly anticipated seeing each other. We enjoyed four days of games, entertainment and great food.  We walked and talked and spent a great deal of quality-time sharing about our families and our lives.

We also needed unconditional support with family concerns and cherished the insights given. We cried a little for the struggles each of us were having. These interactions between us were profound and positive in the way only “BFF” friend can give. We felt stronger and more settled in just the four wonderful days we spent being together.  We can’t wait until next year to once again experience that special time only “BFF” friends can encounter together.

This is the value of friendship and why it is so important to keep those long lasting friendships close to your heart.  No one understands you more than those friends. They have walked in your shoes; so to speak, all through the years you have known each other.  Your children haven’t walked those miles with you so they don’t understand your fears, your values, your dreams, but your close friends do. Close friends are your blanket of love and understanding like no others.  Keep them close!

I arrived home in time to celebrate Mother Day with my family. Since family is the other focal point in this blog it’s important for me to describe my three children and the ways they are my rock and my reason for living.

I have three wonderful and accomplished children.  I am blessed and feel God and my special angel “Sandy” kissed me from above.  Sandy has been my guardian angel since she left this world in 1948. I always felt she sat on my right shoulder and looked after my children and help guide them and me through this uncertain world.

When I held my first child Jete’ in my arms I thought life could not be more complete until my son Duke arrived the next year.  I had the perfect family a girl and a boy.  Life was good!  Surprise, surprise two years later we had a third bundle of joy Rene’e.  Each of my children has given the world three children. My grandchildren  have brought a sense of purpose and meaning and excitement to all of our lives.

My three children have remained close but not without a struggle. Sometimes we have to pray and seek guidance to overcome conflicts and hard feelings.  However each one of my children brings a unique perspective to the family dynamics that only she or he can bring.  I can’t imagine my life without seeing them, hearing them, speaking with them, loving them.  They are the reason I wake up in the morning and have sweet dreams at night.  They are my blessings!  Thank you God!


From left to right:  Katy, a sophomore at Savannah School of Art, Jete’. Claire, a sophomore at University of Kentucky. in the back: Tommy and Ryan, who graduates this June from the University of Denver.


From left to right: Anita, Duke, Gunner and Dennis.  Anita is a freshman in high school and loves dance. Gunner a freshman at Stanford, Dennis in the seventh grade and loves baseball.

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From left to right: Christian a Sophomore at Savannah school of art, the newly weds Max and Bailey, they were married this past November and are young professionals, Craig,Rene’e, and Parker a senior at Ole Miss, and their wonderful dogs Bear, River, Whiskey.

Episode #5 – friendaversary

Best friends enrich your life and are the people you trust above all others to keep your brightest and darkest secrets. They are the people you call with good news and the ones who can soothe your soul during times of great sadness. A best friend can be summed up best like this:

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My fifth suggestion on living well is always stay close to your best friends so that your life will be enriched and filled with love that only a best friend can give you.

Visiting friends is a must in my life!  I have three groups of friends that I must visit ever so often because of the joy they bring to my life. They are my high school friends, my college friends, and friends who used to live in my city who have moved away.

I am lucky that my high school friends get together often each year to celebrate whatever they can dream up to celebrate so we can all get together and share stories of family and crazy things we did in our youth. These times keep me grounded in the reality of my life and who I will always be “myself, Katy” at ten, than twenty, turning thirty, than forty, God forbid fifty, oh my God sixty, how did I get to be seventy, can you believe I’m eighty!  If I can remain true to myself than life would have served me well.

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Some of my high school friends at the Christmas luncheon in Lake Charles, Louisiana.  Shirl’s mother Doris is in her nineties and keeps us all on our toes.

My second set of best friends are my college roommates from my years at LSU in Baton Rouge, Louisiana and Auburn University in Auburn, Alabama.  Those were the years of discovery and adventure.  Those were the years of awakening as to who I could be, what I would like to achieve, and what kind of legacy I would like to leave behind for hopefully others to build on or consider worthy.

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Starr, me, Sylvia, Sally at Starr’s home in Atlanta sooo many years ago.

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Starr, me, Sylvia and Sally  with “Brandi” about nine years ago at Sylvia’s home in Dallas.

Starr, Sylvia, Sally and myself get together once a year now usually at our various homes in Dallas, Fort Walton Beach, Atlanta, and New Orleans.  I am leaving tomorrow for Dallas so my next Blog will share all the fun we had. Don’t forget to tune in next weekend to hear all about it.

My third group of friends who get together to celebrate and contemplate life are Patti and Andy and myself.  We don’t get to see each other very often but when we do we bring the house down with laughter, wine, and good times.

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Andy, myself, and Patti years earlier.

I like to think the benefit of friendship is immeasurable.  That every great friendship improves your self-confidence because you know there is some one who truly gets you and loves you for who you are.  I also think every great friendship is the only thing that can encourage you to change or help you avoid an unhealthy habit or lifestyle because you trust that friends judgment and are willing to listen to his/her advice.

The last group of friends live in my hometown and one about one hour away.  Joann and Coco have been my friends for about five or six years.

It really doesn’t matter how long you have been friends with someone it has to do with connection.  Both these ladies became instant friends and that friendship grew stronger with each year.  They are the people I keep in touch with all the time.  Sharing our lives with each other is an important part of my days.  Everyone needs friends like these two ladies; friends who pick up the telephone to say hello I’m thinking about you. Hearing their voice, speaking of their life experiences, and they also wondering about yours. Just to hear their voice,  having them telephone, or having lunch together says you are special to me and makes my day special.

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Joann and me!

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 Coco and me!

 Why not share some of your special friendships with me which I can pass on to others.

Episode #3- Make a Bucket List

My tip # 3 to live well is that it’s important to always have things to look forward to like church, travel, work, volunteering, studies, exercise, etc. Whatever you are interested in you should have plans to do those things by yourself, or even better, with someone you can share the experience with.


I walked the Honolulu Marathon in 1987 I finished in 7 hours and 30 minutes

You should never feel bored with your life because there is so much to enjoy. There are always events you can enjoy in this world. There are things that enrich your life and give you stories to share; which makes you a more interesting person to be around.

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Afternoon tea with friends!

I don’t believe everything in your life should be planned; sometimes it’s nice for life to just unfold. You will be surprised by the joy your day bring! You should also look for those activities in your community that you know you will enjoy. Search for interesting events in your state and take a road trip and attend. If there is a long ago friend living there whom you haven’t seen in years plan to visit he or she while you are there. You can renew acquaintances and relive events in your past. Who knows what joy that may bring!

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I love plays so I look at what’s playing in my community that I would like to attend. I like to travel so I look for travel that I might want to save for, however I also explore new areas in the city that are interesting. In-town events are the cheapest way to travel and keep you abreast of interesting things around your city. I love movies so I look at whats playing at the theatres. Visiting the library is a must to search for books and new authors I want to read. I always keep a book going by my bed or in the living room and keep the TV turned off and music going unless it’s time for my favorite television program, which are not very often.


Movie with friend!

Fill your life with variety, let the every day be a surprise or have it’s own flavor. Yes, I like that, “the flavor of my day” should become your motto; how grand or inspiring can it be. Let me know about your discoveries for your life, and how your dreams come true. Maybe you can help someone discover his or her joy in living life well.

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A meal with a friend who you can weird with!

**Let me know if I can share your discoveries in my blog.

Episode #2 – Health


I believe one of the most important things in living well is feeling good. Here are my blueprints that help me live a healthy life.

One of my daughters has a very good friend from high school who is like an adopted daughter to me. She is brilliant, a graduate of Tulane University in New Orleans, and has become an independent Medical Researcher. Her name is Nonnie Chrystal. Nonnie put me on a regiment of taking (Divinely Organic Colloidals), which are minerals and (Energy Biodine), an iodine that you add to water and drink. I take both every day in the morning on an empty stomach.

I purchase from Nonnie (Peak Oxygen) and add it to filtered water, which saturates the water with oxygen. I try to drink at least eight glasses a day, which adds extra oxygen to my body.

Nonnie swears by her (Ancient 5 Scalar Salt), that I use in anything I cook. Body soaking at least once a week with 2 tablespoons of (Ancient 5 Scalar Salt) is great and something Nonnie recommends.

If you are interested in any of her products you can contact her at Health Gems, 981 East Eau Gallie Boulevard, # 170, Melbourne, FL 32937, telephone (321) 615-7847, info@HealthGems.com

I have been on this regiment for a couple of years now. I feel fabulous, have lots of energy, sleep well, and I’m very active. Due to these products I can say at eighty I feel fifty!

My other health secret I discovered from my son-in–law who is battling cancer. It’s a drink he found that boost your immune system. It’s known as the Budwig protocol: flax oil and cottage cheese to reform the oxygen uptake of cells.

You combine 3 Tbsp. of cottage cheese and 2 Tbsp. of flax oil in a blender and mix together then let sit for five to eight minutes. Adds berries, walnuts or almonds, stevia, water, ice and blend. I also add greens, spinach, Kale and a little arugula. Try to use organic fruit, greens, and nuts. Drink as soon as it’s blended. This has now become my morning meal!

If you are interested in reading about “how to Cure Almost Any Cancer at Home for $5.15 a Day” by Bill Henderson with Andrew Scholberg it’s available at www.Beating-Cancer-Gently.com.

I have been exercising with two very good friends for about a year now.  We spend an hour everyday and I have to say on days when I miss due to a conflict I now actually miss the exercise.  I never thought I would ever say that because I used to be a real couch potato.  I loved nothing better than lying on my sofa in the morning with my nose in a good book.  I owe my friends for encouraging me to add exercise to my life and for my increasing good health, growing energy, and flexibility!


Episode #1 – Hello I’m Katy

I’m Katy!

I’m writing this blog for all of you to answer this question for yourself, “How well can I live?”

I am very fortunate to have lived a happy and healthy life for eighty years and I want to continue to do so for as long as possible. Actually, I feel sixty and wonder who I’m looking at in the mirror each day.

I own my own business which I started at seventy and plan to continue owning it for many years to come. Painting with a Twist is a franchise business which bring people a great deal of pleasure, fun and happiness. It give seven young artist a fun, enjoyable, and well paying part time job while developing their own talent. Also owning this business helps me live a good lifestyle and also keeps me living independently.

I love to read and I just finished a wonderful series by Louise Penny, a Canadian author, of mystery novels set in the Canadian province of Quebec. Wonderful, I highly recommend this series!

Sometimes I wake at night and am no longer tired so I gather all my pillows around me and read until my eyes grow heavy and I once again fall asleep. There is nothing better than a comfortable bed with lots of pillows and thoughts of a wonderful story in your head to dream about. What you do not want to do is read something stimulating that will keep you awake. These are the books you read during the day when you feel bored. “There is a time and place for everything,” just like, ” to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”

My family is the most important thing in my life! I have three grown children and each have three children. My nine grandchildren fill my life with so much fascination and excitement. I will be documenting their lives because I want them to know how proud I am of them and their accomplishments and to also know how much joy they have brought to my life.

My two daughters and my son are a blessing to me and I am fortunate that they live close to me. Each one of them brings a different perspective to my life. I love the different viewpoints and attitudes of these unique adult children of mine and appreciate how they color my world.

My children wanted to know how I want to celebrate this milestone birthday. I have to say I’m not excited about reaching this age simply because I don’t have lots of years left to look forward to. I do plan to live to “one hundred” but that’s only twenty more good years.

So this blog will be examples and illustrations; paradigms of the lives of the people I love and who love me. It’s our history and my gift to them!

Tune in and let me hear from you!